By High Desert Medium | Palm Springs Psychic Medium
We can’t go back and change what happened to us.
But can we change what happens inside us when we remember it?
I think that’s one of the most interesting ideas behind FasterEFT.
Long before High Desert Medium became the primary focus of my work, I worked with people using FasterEFT as a transformational technique. One of the things I found so fascinating about the process was its approach to memories.
The goal isn’t to pretend something painful never happened.
It’s to change the emotional information we continue to carry from what happened.
And when we start looking at trauma through that lens, an even bigger question appears:
How much of what we’re carrying actually began with us?
That brings us into generational trauma—and, interestingly, creates a bridge between transformation work, psychic awareness and mediumship.
What Is FasterEFT?
FasterEFT was developed by Robert Gene Smith and eventually evolved into what he calls eutaptics®. The method draws from several approaches and focuses heavily on memories, emotional responses, subconscious patterns and the meanings we’ve attached to past experiences.
One of its central ideas is fairly easy to understand.
Something happens.
We experience it.
Our mind gives the experience meaning.
And that experience can become a reference point for how we interpret similar situations later.
Imagine a child who repeatedly experiences criticism from a parent.
The child doesn’t necessarily think:
“My parent has unresolved emotional problems and doesn’t know how to communicate affection appropriately.”
A child may instead conclude:
I’m not good enough.
That belief can become part of the child’s internal story.
Years later, the person may be 40, 50 or 60 years old, but something resembling that original experience can still trigger the emotional response created decades earlier.
FasterEFT works with those internal references rather than simply fighting the reaction occurring today.
Can You Really Rewrite a Memory?
This needs an important distinction.
We aren’t changing history.
If something happened, it happened.
We’re not erasing the factual event or convincing ourselves that our childhood was wonderful when it wasn’t.
What can potentially change is the way a memory is represented, experienced and emotionally activated in the present.
There is a fascinating area of neuroscience called memory reconsolidation.
For many years, we tended to think of long-term memories almost like files stored permanently in a cabinet.
Research suggests memory is more dynamic than that.
When a memory is reactivated, under certain conditions it can temporarily become more open to modification before being stored again. Researchers call this reconsolidation. Psychotherapy researchers have explored whether introducing new emotional information while an old memory is activated may help update the emotional learning connected with that memory.
That does not mean FasterEFT itself has been scientifically established as a treatment for PTSD or that every claim made about memory reconsolidation applies automatically to FasterEFT.
But I find the broader concept fascinating because it helps explain something important:
Remembering an experience and remaining trapped by an experience are not necessarily the same thing.
Changing the Memory to Change the Emotional Response
Suppose someone was humiliated in front of their classmates when they were nine years old.
At 45, they can still replay that experience in their mind.
They see the classroom. They remember the other children laughing. They remember how embarrassed and powerless they felt.
Years later, whenever they have to speak publicly, their stomach tightens. Their heart races. They become afraid they’ll embarrass themselves again.
Consciously, they know they’re no longer nine years old.
But internally, they’re still carrying a memory that tells the same painful story.
With FasterEFT, the goal isn’t simply to remember the event while trying not to feel bad about it. We work with both the negative emotional response and the way the memory itself is represented internally.
After reducing or releasing the negative emotions connected with the experience, we can begin changing the memory.
Instead of repeatedly seeing themselves as that frightened nine-year-old being humiliated in front of the classroom, the client can create an internal experience that reflects what they would rather have happened.
Perhaps they imagine themselves standing confidently in front of the class.
Maybe the other children respond positively.
Maybe someone steps in and supports them.
Maybe their younger self responds completely differently.
The purpose isn’t to convince the person that this new version literally happened. They still know the historical facts of their life.
The purpose is to stop repeatedly using the old painful version of the memory as the emotional reference for experiences happening today.
If we continue playing the same internal memory in the same way, it can continue producing the same emotional response.
FasterEFT works to interrupt that pattern.
We release the negative emotions associated with the original experience and then change the internal memory to something the person would rather experience.
The past itself hasn’t changed.
But the version of the past that the mind keeps using as a reference has.
And when that internal reference changes, the emotional response connected with it can change as well.
Instead of the subconscious continuing to say:
“Standing in front of people means humiliation, fear and embarrassment,”
it now has a different reference available.
That is where I believe some of the most powerful transformation can occur.
We’re not pretending the past didn’t happen.
We’re changing what we’re carrying forward from it.
What Happens When the Pattern Didn’t Begin With You?
Now let’s make this more interesting.
Imagine your mother grew up in extreme poverty.
Her family never knew whether there would be enough money for food.
As an adult, she becomes intensely fearful about money.
She saves everything.
She worries whenever money is spent.
She constantly warns her children:
“Don’t waste that.”
“We can’t afford it.”
“You never know when everything could disappear.”
Her children may grow up financially secure.
Yet one of them develops the same anxiety around money.
Why?
No one necessarily sat down and consciously taught that child to fear financial ruin.
But children learn from tone of voice, behavior, emotional reactions, family stories and the atmosphere surrounding them.
The original trauma belonged to one generation.
The emotional pattern can continue into another.
Generational Trauma Is More Than a Spiritual Idea
Intergenerational trauma isn’t simply a metaphysical concept.
Researchers have studied how the effects of severe stress and trauma can appear in subsequent generations through family environments, caregiving patterns, learned behavior, stress physiology and potentially biological mechanisms.
Epigenetics has received considerable attention in this area. Researchers have found intriguing associations between trauma exposure and changes in gene regulation, but human intergenerational epigenetic inheritance remains a developing and complicated area of research. Scientists caution against reducing generational trauma to the idea that traumatic memories are simply “written into our DNA.”
What seems much clearer is something most families can recognize without a microscope:
Families pass patterns down.
Fear can be passed down.
So can shame.
Silence.
Anger.
Scarcity.
Relationship patterns.
Ideas about worthiness.
Ways of dealing with grief.
Even beliefs about what subjects are safe to discuss.
Sometimes we inherit family stories without realizing we’re still living inside them.
“That’s Just How Our Family Is”
How often have you heard that sentence?
“We don’t talk about feelings.”
“Everyone in our family worries.”
“The women in our family always choose the wrong men.”
“The men in our family don’t show emotion.”
“We’ve never been good with money.”
“Everyone in our family has a temper.”
Sometimes these statements sound almost like inherited identities.
But what if they’re actually patterns?
And if they’re patterns, perhaps they can change.
That’s where I think transformational work becomes powerful.
Instead of asking only:
What’s wrong with me?
We can ask:
Where did I learn this?
And then:
Do I still want to carry it?
Healing Something That Began Before You
You don’t necessarily have to know everything that happened in previous generations to change your relationship with a pattern today.
Maybe your grandmother survived tremendous loss.
Perhaps your father grew up with an emotionally unavailable parent.
Maybe your family experienced poverty, addiction, abandonment, war, discrimination, abuse or sudden death.
Their survival strategies may have made perfect sense for them.
But a survival strategy can outlive the circumstances that created it.
That’s an important realization.
Something that protected one generation can restrict the next.
And healing doesn’t require blaming our ancestors.
In fact, I think compassion can become part of the process.
Perhaps they were doing the best they knew how to do with what they had.
And perhaps we’re the generation with the opportunity to do something differently.
This Is Where Mediumship Becomes Interesting
My work today is primarily psychic and evidential mediumship, but I don’t see that work as completely separate from transformation.
In many ways, they meet at the same place:
healing.
People frequently come to mediumship because a relationship still matters.
A mother has died.
A father has died.
A grandparent, sibling, spouse or child is no longer physically here.
Death ended the physical relationship, but it didn’t necessarily end the emotional one.
There may still be love.
There may also be grief, unanswered questions, guilt, anger or things that were never said.
And sometimes there are family patterns stretching back through generations.
Mediumship doesn’t rewrite someone’s childhood.
It doesn’t erase trauma.
And it isn’t a replacement for appropriate mental-health treatment.
But an evidential mediumship experience can sometimes allow someone to look at a relationship from a different perspective.
And perspective can be powerful.
What If Healing Moves in Both Directions?
There’s a spiritual question I find particularly beautiful.
When we heal something within ourselves, does that healing somehow affect the larger family story?
I can’t prove that.
But I think it’s worth contemplating.
If your grandfather’s fear became your father’s fear, and your father’s fear became yours—but you decide the pattern ends with you—something significant has happened.
Your children don’t have to receive exactly what you received.
Neither do the people around you.
You begin responding differently.
You communicate differently.
You choose differently.
You may even remember differently—not by changing the historical facts, but by changing the meaning those facts have in your life today.
In that sense, healing one person can influence generations that haven’t even been born yet.
Psychic Guidance Can Reveal Patterns Too
This is also where psychic work can complement transformation.
People often seek psychic guidance because they feel stuck.
They may say:
“Why do I keep choosing the same kind of relationship?”
“Why am I afraid to make this change?”
“Why do I sabotage myself whenever things start going well?”
“Why do I feel responsible for everyone?”
Sometimes the most useful insight isn’t a prediction about the future.
It’s recognizing the pattern creating the present.
Because once we can see a pattern clearly, we have choices.
And choice is where transformation begins.
You Are More Than What Happened to You
One of the themes I’ve returned to repeatedly in my spiritual work is the belief that we are Spirit first and human second.
Our human experiences matter.
Our memories matter.
Our families matter.
Our trauma matters.
But perhaps none of them represents the entirety of who we are.
If consciousness is larger than our physical personality, then maybe healing is partly the process of remembering that we are more than the experiences we’ve accumulated.
FasterEFT approaches this from the perspective of memories, subconscious references and emotional patterns.
Psychic work may approach it through intuition and expanded awareness.
Mediumship approaches it through the possibility that consciousness and relationships continue beyond physical death.
Different tools.
Different windows.
But once again, perhaps they’re looking toward something similar.
You Can’t Change What Happened—But You Can Change What Happens Next
This may be the most important distinction.
Healing doesn’t require denying the past.
It doesn’t mean forgiving someone who harmed you.
It doesn’t mean pretending something wasn’t painful.
And it certainly doesn’t mean creating a fictional version of your life.
It means recognizing that the past does not automatically deserve control over the present.
You may not have chosen what happened to you.
You may not have chosen the family patterns you inherited.
But once you become aware of them, you can begin deciding what happens next.
Sometimes transformation starts with a surprisingly simple question:
Is this actually mine?
And if the answer is yes:
Do I still want to carry it?
Maybe healing isn’t about erasing our story.
Maybe it’s about finally becoming the person who gets to write the next chapter.
Ready to Create Change?
Through High Desert Medium, I offer psychic and evidential mediumship readings as well as transformation sessions for people looking for greater clarity, healing and change.
Whether you’re trying to understand a repeating pattern in your life, move beyond something from your past, receive psychic guidance about where you’re going next, or connect with a loved one in Spirit, sometimes a different perspective can open a door we couldn’t see before.
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